Dancing a slow dance can be an intimidating feat for many girls. Having to adapt your own dancing style to dance with a partner can seem overwhelming and even stressful; however, by enjoying yourself and being comfortable on the dance floor, the dance can be a pleasant experience for you and your partner.
Dance with a variety of partners to find one or many dance partners you mesh well with. Not every dancing style will suit your individual style, so dancing with a variety of individuals will enable you to discern what you like and don’t like about your partner’s skills. Do not rule out a slow dancing partner simply because you don't appreciate his fast dancing style, as this does not necessarily reflect on his abilities during a slow dance.
Relax while engaged in dancing, as this will make you a better dancer and thus a better dance partner. Keep your arms, hands and torso loose while dancing and maintain soft knees. This will allow you to be more easily led by your partner as well as allow you to better move in sync with the music. Having a relaxed demeanor while you dance will likewise encourage your partner to be relaxed as well, enabling you both to enjoy a comfortable dance.
Line of Vision
You may be inclined to look down at your feet and your partner’s feet while you are dancing out of fear of stepping on his toes or being stepped on. Maintain a high and steady line of vision and refrain from looking down at your feet. Trust your partner to lead you in the dance and be confident that you will not step on him or be stepped on. Your level of comfort and confidence can likewise rub off on him, making him less prone to step on your toes out of nervousness.
How to position yourself for a slow dance can be an awkward few seconds. Take the lead from your partner on whether he wants you to put both your hands on his shoulders or keep your left hand on his shoulder and clasp your right hand in his, as is the more formal stance. If he does not reach for your hand and you feel the environment is comfortable enough, place both hands on his shoulders or around his neck. Receive cues from your partner on how close to position your body next to his; he will likely dictate this by how firmly he grasps your waist. Don't be afraid to push back, however, if he indicates he wants to stand more closely than you find comfortable.
Michelle Barry graduated from Salve Regina University with a Bachelor of Arts in English. Since then, she has worked as a reporter for the Wilbraham-Hampden Times, an editor for Month9Books and Evolved Publishing, editor and has spent the past seven years in marketing and graphic design. She also has an extensive background in dance.